A few months ago our 12 year old son lost a good friend to a shooting here in our town. This affected our town very bad.
The little boy that was shot was the son of a deputy sheriff and the school resource officer here in our town. I don't know the deputy sheriff very well and have only met him one time but he is such a great, kind hearted man who loved his kids very much.
The one time I did meet him he talked and talked about his kids and you could just tell he was a great dad and how much he loves them. The next week his son was gone.
This terrible accident made the news forever here. This poor man had also been fighting CPS and the Judges as well for his own kids. CPS had NOT taken his kids from him before anyone gets that thought! He was divorced and his wife had custody of the kids. The wife's boyfriend had made comments or something to that nature to the daughter and the court gave him custody of the daughter. They did not give him custody of the son because "nothing had happened to him yet". I want to make it VERY clear this is what the news had reported and not anything that has been said to me by this officer.
I don't know all the details and to be honest don't want to know all the details of what happened the morning this sweet little boy was shot and killed. I do know that the moms boyfriend shot and killed the little boy and his mom.
The reason I am writing about this in my blog is because this could have been prevented. This should have never happened to this little boy or his mother. This little boy should have been placed with his dad and sister and he would have been here today.
The 2nd reason I am writing about this is because of the fight I have fought and will keep fighting until the day I die. The attorney I am going to see is the attorney for One Tucker At A Time. I hope more then anything she will help us. I hope more then anything she will help this man get justice for his son Tucker.
As I sit here writing this I think of Tucker. I never had the privilege of meeting him but I know my son was good friends with him and talked about him all the time. I know how it affected my son in loosing his friend. I feel as if CPS and the Judges had done their jobs and not "target" people like us who don't deserve it and who have been falsely accused then Tucker would be here to be with his dad.
I have never told Officer Whimpee what we have been thru with CPS. I never told him because I don't trust cops after what we went thru. But to be honest I really like Officer Whimpee and would trust him. I don't know if he will ever read this post or if I will ever tell him or talk to him about our life but I want him to know I look up to him and admire him more then he will ever know. He is still a sheriff here and still works with our kids at the school. Our kids think the world and all of him. When he lost his son we went to the visitation and that funeral home was packed. Every room was filled with lines waiting to see him and give condolences and they just kept coming. As I watched him stand in front of his sons casket he just hugged people and talked to the kids and never shed a tear. He finally needed a break and went outside and we went out to him. We didn't want to impose or bother him but to just say how sorry we were for his loss. I went up to him and he was surrounded by other officers. I touched his back and he turned to me and I said I don't know if you remember me but I'm so sorry for your loss and I hugged him. At the time he didn't remember me but he did remember my daughter who was standing beside me and said he remembered her. As he hugged me back he said something I will never forget. Just love your kids and hug them is what he said to me.
He spoke to the kids and hugged them and spoke to my husband and hugged him. I said to him just a week ago you and I were talking about how much you love your kids and now this and it was all I could do not to bawl. Again he said just love your kids and hug them. I again said I'm so sorry and we told him we couldn't be at the funeral the next day because I was having surgery and he said that was ok and we left.
I remember thinking if that was me in his shoes I would be in so many pieces they would have to sedate me. He was so strong. I'm sure he cried at some point and time. I would have and am not ashamed to say so. I just couldn't get over how he was holding it together and being so strong. He did an interview with the news. He started One Tucker At A Time and boy did that ever take off! It wasn't even but a few weeks and he was back at work! I to this very day am amazed at this man, how strong he is and how kind and loving. I have respect for him and admire him even though he is a "cop".
As I write this I think of you Officer Whimpee and of you Tucker. You both make me feel strong even though I feel weak and feel like this battle with CPS will never end or the laws will never change. I not only fight for my kids but I fight for what happened to you as well Tucker. I hope justice is somehow served for you, your dad and your family. I know your family misses you and your friends and my son as well misses you and I'm sorry this happened to you because CPS and Judges and Laws in this world are so wrong. God Bless you and your family and I will keep fighting to change laws and what happened to you and what hell CPS and KSP has caused our family.
https://www.facebook.com/OneTuckerAtATime
http://www.whas11.com/news/local/Deputy-Wimpee-to-make-statement-on-sons-death-Monday-233291481.html
Thursday, February 27, 2014
CPS Is Back
Just when you think you might have peace and quiet something happens to make you think again.
Cps went to the school and talked to our 15 year old daughter on Monday. Communicare where the kids get counseling called and made several allegations.
Here are just a few.
1. We had missed appointments with the kids for counseling.
2. I had called the day after we had a meeting up there with them and dropped out of the impact program which I might add is a VOLUNTEER service that we did not need.
3. My husband had left and we were getting a divorce.
The list goes on and on and I cant even remember all of it at this point.
Questions they asked my daughter:
1. Was there hitting going on in the home?
2. Were her mom and dad getting a divorce
3. Did they all go to school?
4. Did they go to counseling?
5. What was going on between me and her dad?
6. Why was her dad gone?
7. Was her oldest brother still going to school?
8. What happened between her and her younger brother on the bus?
9. Were they being punished for being kicked off the bus?
ANSWERS:
1. No there is not any hitting, beating or domestic violence going on in our home. Our kids are grounded when they get in trouble from IPods, video games, TV, etc...
2. No we are not getting a divorce nor are we fighting and we don't fight in front of the kids to start with.
3. Yes they all goes to school and when they are out they go to the Doctor and have a note.
4. Our 12 year old was being seen at school for his counseling. Our 17 year was being seen at school for his counseling until the counselor stopped going to see him. Our daughter had missed apps with the Doctor and had to do a drop in to get back in counseling.
5. Nothing is going on between me and their dad.
6. Her dad had left to go to Ohio to take a class for a new job that he would be gone 14 days, home 3 and gone 14 again but after he took the class did not take the job. He was gone one night.
7. Yes her older brother is still in school
8. Our daughter and youngest son got into a fight on the bus and got suspended for three days. They are kids and siblings and simply got into a fight.
9. They were grounded from the video games, TV, I pods for being suspended off the bus.
We had a meeting a few weeks ago with Comminucare and the impact lady there. The impact lady said it seemed as if I didn't even want the VOLUNTEER impact service and I didn't. All they do is tell you where to get food stamps and info like that but the catch is they come to your home once a month to do it. I didn't need the info or want the service. The day after the meeting the impact lady called me and said if I didn't want or need the service she was fine with that and I told her ok. So I DIDNT drop out of anything. She called me and they reported I called her and dropped out.
I called the worker Tuesday morning and talked with her. She was the worker that closed our case. She assured me she was just checking out the allegations and that nothing was going to come of it and that talking with our daughter had cleared up a lot. I assured her that we had been there/done that and been told that before and it didn't happen that way. She has to speak to the boys and I told her she could only speak to them if I was present and she said that was fine.
I then called the Comminucare worker at school and told her I was aware they had called and of the allegations that was made and from that point on she was NOT to speak with my kids at school or anywhere else. I also told her I had told the worker that I would be calling them and telling them that. We talked and I did let her know I was not at all happy about any of this. She almost seemed taken aback that I called and confronted her and I don't care if she was or not. I will not be a "target" with these people ever again and will not go down without one hell of a fight.
My next call was to the assistant principle at the two youngest one school. I have talked to her many times and she is a very nice and honest lady. I told her I was aware CPS had been there and that I know the law is that I have to be notified BEFORE CPS is allowed to talk to or see my kids. She said that was not the law and I told her she needed to talk to their lawyer to find out because ours said it was. I told her I was not happy about this at all and from now on I want to be called before they are allowed to speak with my kids. She said she cant call me for that but she can call me and let me know when CPS has been called. I at this point am like ????? REALLY?? We did talk and she said she knew half the time when they called CPS that it was bull but they have to by law. She also said she does give the workers a hard time because it does affect the kids in a negative way.
So now what? I called an attorney and am going to meet with her next week before meeting with the worker. I will not but up with this shit pardon my mouth anymore!!!
Cps went to the school and talked to our 15 year old daughter on Monday. Communicare where the kids get counseling called and made several allegations.
Here are just a few.
1. We had missed appointments with the kids for counseling.
2. I had called the day after we had a meeting up there with them and dropped out of the impact program which I might add is a VOLUNTEER service that we did not need.
3. My husband had left and we were getting a divorce.
The list goes on and on and I cant even remember all of it at this point.
Questions they asked my daughter:
1. Was there hitting going on in the home?
2. Were her mom and dad getting a divorce
3. Did they all go to school?
4. Did they go to counseling?
5. What was going on between me and her dad?
6. Why was her dad gone?
7. Was her oldest brother still going to school?
8. What happened between her and her younger brother on the bus?
9. Were they being punished for being kicked off the bus?
ANSWERS:
1. No there is not any hitting, beating or domestic violence going on in our home. Our kids are grounded when they get in trouble from IPods, video games, TV, etc...
2. No we are not getting a divorce nor are we fighting and we don't fight in front of the kids to start with.
3. Yes they all goes to school and when they are out they go to the Doctor and have a note.
4. Our 12 year old was being seen at school for his counseling. Our 17 year was being seen at school for his counseling until the counselor stopped going to see him. Our daughter had missed apps with the Doctor and had to do a drop in to get back in counseling.
5. Nothing is going on between me and their dad.
6. Her dad had left to go to Ohio to take a class for a new job that he would be gone 14 days, home 3 and gone 14 again but after he took the class did not take the job. He was gone one night.
7. Yes her older brother is still in school
8. Our daughter and youngest son got into a fight on the bus and got suspended for three days. They are kids and siblings and simply got into a fight.
9. They were grounded from the video games, TV, I pods for being suspended off the bus.
We had a meeting a few weeks ago with Comminucare and the impact lady there. The impact lady said it seemed as if I didn't even want the VOLUNTEER impact service and I didn't. All they do is tell you where to get food stamps and info like that but the catch is they come to your home once a month to do it. I didn't need the info or want the service. The day after the meeting the impact lady called me and said if I didn't want or need the service she was fine with that and I told her ok. So I DIDNT drop out of anything. She called me and they reported I called her and dropped out.
I called the worker Tuesday morning and talked with her. She was the worker that closed our case. She assured me she was just checking out the allegations and that nothing was going to come of it and that talking with our daughter had cleared up a lot. I assured her that we had been there/done that and been told that before and it didn't happen that way. She has to speak to the boys and I told her she could only speak to them if I was present and she said that was fine.
I then called the Comminucare worker at school and told her I was aware they had called and of the allegations that was made and from that point on she was NOT to speak with my kids at school or anywhere else. I also told her I had told the worker that I would be calling them and telling them that. We talked and I did let her know I was not at all happy about any of this. She almost seemed taken aback that I called and confronted her and I don't care if she was or not. I will not be a "target" with these people ever again and will not go down without one hell of a fight.
My next call was to the assistant principle at the two youngest one school. I have talked to her many times and she is a very nice and honest lady. I told her I was aware CPS had been there and that I know the law is that I have to be notified BEFORE CPS is allowed to talk to or see my kids. She said that was not the law and I told her she needed to talk to their lawyer to find out because ours said it was. I told her I was not happy about this at all and from now on I want to be called before they are allowed to speak with my kids. She said she cant call me for that but she can call me and let me know when CPS has been called. I at this point am like ????? REALLY?? We did talk and she said she knew half the time when they called CPS that it was bull but they have to by law. She also said she does give the workers a hard time because it does affect the kids in a negative way.
So now what? I called an attorney and am going to meet with her next week before meeting with the worker. I will not but up with this shit pardon my mouth anymore!!!
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