A few months ago our 12 year old son lost a good friend to a shooting here in our town. This affected our town very bad.
The little boy that was shot was the son of a deputy sheriff and the school resource officer here in our town. I don't know the deputy sheriff very well and have only met him one time but he is such a great, kind hearted man who loved his kids very much.
The one time I did meet him he talked and talked about his kids and you could just tell he was a great dad and how much he loves them. The next week his son was gone.
This terrible accident made the news forever here. This poor man had also been fighting CPS and the Judges as well for his own kids. CPS had NOT taken his kids from him before anyone gets that thought! He was divorced and his wife had custody of the kids. The wife's boyfriend had made comments or something to that nature to the daughter and the court gave him custody of the daughter. They did not give him custody of the son because "nothing had happened to him yet". I want to make it VERY clear this is what the news had reported and not anything that has been said to me by this officer.
I don't know all the details and to be honest don't want to know all the details of what happened the morning this sweet little boy was shot and killed. I do know that the moms boyfriend shot and killed the little boy and his mom.
The reason I am writing about this in my blog is because this could have been prevented. This should have never happened to this little boy or his mother. This little boy should have been placed with his dad and sister and he would have been here today.
The 2nd reason I am writing about this is because of the fight I have fought and will keep fighting until the day I die. The attorney I am going to see is the attorney for One Tucker At A Time. I hope more then anything she will help us. I hope more then anything she will help this man get justice for his son Tucker.
As I sit here writing this I think of Tucker. I never had the privilege of meeting him but I know my son was good friends with him and talked about him all the time. I know how it affected my son in loosing his friend. I feel as if CPS and the Judges had done their jobs and not "target" people like us who don't deserve it and who have been falsely accused then Tucker would be here to be with his dad.
I have never told Officer Whimpee what we have been thru with CPS. I never told him because I don't trust cops after what we went thru. But to be honest I really like Officer Whimpee and would trust him. I don't know if he will ever read this post or if I will ever tell him or talk to him about our life but I want him to know I look up to him and admire him more then he will ever know. He is still a sheriff here and still works with our kids at the school. Our kids think the world and all of him. When he lost his son we went to the visitation and that funeral home was packed. Every room was filled with lines waiting to see him and give condolences and they just kept coming. As I watched him stand in front of his sons casket he just hugged people and talked to the kids and never shed a tear. He finally needed a break and went outside and we went out to him. We didn't want to impose or bother him but to just say how sorry we were for his loss. I went up to him and he was surrounded by other officers. I touched his back and he turned to me and I said I don't know if you remember me but I'm so sorry for your loss and I hugged him. At the time he didn't remember me but he did remember my daughter who was standing beside me and said he remembered her. As he hugged me back he said something I will never forget. Just love your kids and hug them is what he said to me.
He spoke to the kids and hugged them and spoke to my husband and hugged him. I said to him just a week ago you and I were talking about how much you love your kids and now this and it was all I could do not to bawl. Again he said just love your kids and hug them. I again said I'm so sorry and we told him we couldn't be at the funeral the next day because I was having surgery and he said that was ok and we left.
I remember thinking if that was me in his shoes I would be in so many pieces they would have to sedate me. He was so strong. I'm sure he cried at some point and time. I would have and am not ashamed to say so. I just couldn't get over how he was holding it together and being so strong. He did an interview with the news. He started One Tucker At A Time and boy did that ever take off! It wasn't even but a few weeks and he was back at work! I to this very day am amazed at this man, how strong he is and how kind and loving. I have respect for him and admire him even though he is a "cop".
As I write this I think of you Officer Whimpee and of you Tucker. You both make me feel strong even though I feel weak and feel like this battle with CPS will never end or the laws will never change. I not only fight for my kids but I fight for what happened to you as well Tucker. I hope justice is somehow served for you, your dad and your family. I know your family misses you and your friends and my son as well misses you and I'm sorry this happened to you because CPS and Judges and Laws in this world are so wrong. God Bless you and your family and I will keep fighting to change laws and what happened to you and what hell CPS and KSP has caused our family.
https://www.facebook.com/OneTuckerAtATime
http://www.whas11.com/news/local/Deputy-Wimpee-to-make-statement-on-sons-death-Monday-233291481.html
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Thursday, February 27, 2014
CPS Is Back
Just when you think you might have peace and quiet something happens to make you think again.
Cps went to the school and talked to our 15 year old daughter on Monday. Communicare where the kids get counseling called and made several allegations.
Here are just a few.
1. We had missed appointments with the kids for counseling.
2. I had called the day after we had a meeting up there with them and dropped out of the impact program which I might add is a VOLUNTEER service that we did not need.
3. My husband had left and we were getting a divorce.
The list goes on and on and I cant even remember all of it at this point.
Questions they asked my daughter:
1. Was there hitting going on in the home?
2. Were her mom and dad getting a divorce
3. Did they all go to school?
4. Did they go to counseling?
5. What was going on between me and her dad?
6. Why was her dad gone?
7. Was her oldest brother still going to school?
8. What happened between her and her younger brother on the bus?
9. Were they being punished for being kicked off the bus?
ANSWERS:
1. No there is not any hitting, beating or domestic violence going on in our home. Our kids are grounded when they get in trouble from IPods, video games, TV, etc...
2. No we are not getting a divorce nor are we fighting and we don't fight in front of the kids to start with.
3. Yes they all goes to school and when they are out they go to the Doctor and have a note.
4. Our 12 year old was being seen at school for his counseling. Our 17 year was being seen at school for his counseling until the counselor stopped going to see him. Our daughter had missed apps with the Doctor and had to do a drop in to get back in counseling.
5. Nothing is going on between me and their dad.
6. Her dad had left to go to Ohio to take a class for a new job that he would be gone 14 days, home 3 and gone 14 again but after he took the class did not take the job. He was gone one night.
7. Yes her older brother is still in school
8. Our daughter and youngest son got into a fight on the bus and got suspended for three days. They are kids and siblings and simply got into a fight.
9. They were grounded from the video games, TV, I pods for being suspended off the bus.
We had a meeting a few weeks ago with Comminucare and the impact lady there. The impact lady said it seemed as if I didn't even want the VOLUNTEER impact service and I didn't. All they do is tell you where to get food stamps and info like that but the catch is they come to your home once a month to do it. I didn't need the info or want the service. The day after the meeting the impact lady called me and said if I didn't want or need the service she was fine with that and I told her ok. So I DIDNT drop out of anything. She called me and they reported I called her and dropped out.
I called the worker Tuesday morning and talked with her. She was the worker that closed our case. She assured me she was just checking out the allegations and that nothing was going to come of it and that talking with our daughter had cleared up a lot. I assured her that we had been there/done that and been told that before and it didn't happen that way. She has to speak to the boys and I told her she could only speak to them if I was present and she said that was fine.
I then called the Comminucare worker at school and told her I was aware they had called and of the allegations that was made and from that point on she was NOT to speak with my kids at school or anywhere else. I also told her I had told the worker that I would be calling them and telling them that. We talked and I did let her know I was not at all happy about any of this. She almost seemed taken aback that I called and confronted her and I don't care if she was or not. I will not be a "target" with these people ever again and will not go down without one hell of a fight.
My next call was to the assistant principle at the two youngest one school. I have talked to her many times and she is a very nice and honest lady. I told her I was aware CPS had been there and that I know the law is that I have to be notified BEFORE CPS is allowed to talk to or see my kids. She said that was not the law and I told her she needed to talk to their lawyer to find out because ours said it was. I told her I was not happy about this at all and from now on I want to be called before they are allowed to speak with my kids. She said she cant call me for that but she can call me and let me know when CPS has been called. I at this point am like ????? REALLY?? We did talk and she said she knew half the time when they called CPS that it was bull but they have to by law. She also said she does give the workers a hard time because it does affect the kids in a negative way.
So now what? I called an attorney and am going to meet with her next week before meeting with the worker. I will not but up with this shit pardon my mouth anymore!!!
Cps went to the school and talked to our 15 year old daughter on Monday. Communicare where the kids get counseling called and made several allegations.
Here are just a few.
1. We had missed appointments with the kids for counseling.
2. I had called the day after we had a meeting up there with them and dropped out of the impact program which I might add is a VOLUNTEER service that we did not need.
3. My husband had left and we were getting a divorce.
The list goes on and on and I cant even remember all of it at this point.
Questions they asked my daughter:
1. Was there hitting going on in the home?
2. Were her mom and dad getting a divorce
3. Did they all go to school?
4. Did they go to counseling?
5. What was going on between me and her dad?
6. Why was her dad gone?
7. Was her oldest brother still going to school?
8. What happened between her and her younger brother on the bus?
9. Were they being punished for being kicked off the bus?
ANSWERS:
1. No there is not any hitting, beating or domestic violence going on in our home. Our kids are grounded when they get in trouble from IPods, video games, TV, etc...
2. No we are not getting a divorce nor are we fighting and we don't fight in front of the kids to start with.
3. Yes they all goes to school and when they are out they go to the Doctor and have a note.
4. Our 12 year old was being seen at school for his counseling. Our 17 year was being seen at school for his counseling until the counselor stopped going to see him. Our daughter had missed apps with the Doctor and had to do a drop in to get back in counseling.
5. Nothing is going on between me and their dad.
6. Her dad had left to go to Ohio to take a class for a new job that he would be gone 14 days, home 3 and gone 14 again but after he took the class did not take the job. He was gone one night.
7. Yes her older brother is still in school
8. Our daughter and youngest son got into a fight on the bus and got suspended for three days. They are kids and siblings and simply got into a fight.
9. They were grounded from the video games, TV, I pods for being suspended off the bus.
We had a meeting a few weeks ago with Comminucare and the impact lady there. The impact lady said it seemed as if I didn't even want the VOLUNTEER impact service and I didn't. All they do is tell you where to get food stamps and info like that but the catch is they come to your home once a month to do it. I didn't need the info or want the service. The day after the meeting the impact lady called me and said if I didn't want or need the service she was fine with that and I told her ok. So I DIDNT drop out of anything. She called me and they reported I called her and dropped out.
I called the worker Tuesday morning and talked with her. She was the worker that closed our case. She assured me she was just checking out the allegations and that nothing was going to come of it and that talking with our daughter had cleared up a lot. I assured her that we had been there/done that and been told that before and it didn't happen that way. She has to speak to the boys and I told her she could only speak to them if I was present and she said that was fine.
I then called the Comminucare worker at school and told her I was aware they had called and of the allegations that was made and from that point on she was NOT to speak with my kids at school or anywhere else. I also told her I had told the worker that I would be calling them and telling them that. We talked and I did let her know I was not at all happy about any of this. She almost seemed taken aback that I called and confronted her and I don't care if she was or not. I will not be a "target" with these people ever again and will not go down without one hell of a fight.
My next call was to the assistant principle at the two youngest one school. I have talked to her many times and she is a very nice and honest lady. I told her I was aware CPS had been there and that I know the law is that I have to be notified BEFORE CPS is allowed to talk to or see my kids. She said that was not the law and I told her she needed to talk to their lawyer to find out because ours said it was. I told her I was not happy about this at all and from now on I want to be called before they are allowed to speak with my kids. She said she cant call me for that but she can call me and let me know when CPS has been called. I at this point am like ????? REALLY?? We did talk and she said she knew half the time when they called CPS that it was bull but they have to by law. She also said she does give the workers a hard time because it does affect the kids in a negative way.
So now what? I called an attorney and am going to meet with her next week before meeting with the worker. I will not but up with this shit pardon my mouth anymore!!!
Friday, May 3, 2013
Dos and Don'ts with CPS, Police
You do NOT have to talk to a CPS worker or the Police period!! Unless they have a warrant in their hand signed from a Judge you don't have to speak to them or let them speak to your kids. Your kids schools do NOT have the right to allow a CPS worker or the police to speak to your child without you there. I'm sure your kids schools have told you that they have to allow a worker or the police to talk to your kids. IT IS A LIE! They do not have to allow it. They do have to call you before they let them talk to your kids.
We had two CPS workers go to Clints school when he was around 5/6 and strip him down completely naked and actually touch his penis. They had a report of child abuse which had nothing to do with his penis. The teachers and principals actually put Clint in a room with him and left him alone with them.
You have the right to say no and shut the door. If they come back with the police and no warrant shut the door NO MATTER WHAT THREAT THEY MAKE!! They can not do anything without a warrant even if they say they can. DON'T believe them if they tell you different!
Your child has a right to say I do not and will not talk to you until you call my parents and have a tape recorder here. Your child does NOT have to speak with them. They can NOT make you leave while they talk to your child. ITS THE LAW!
My kids now I'll say I'm not talking to you without my parents so say what you want but it's not gonna happen. And I'm darn proud of them for it! They will tell the police, CSP and anyone else that. My kids trust no one except me, their dad and each other(Mindy, Jeff, Clint) They don't trust their half-brother and sister because they were one reason they were removed. The only sad part of it is if something happened they wouldn't call the police no matter what it was and never will me or their dad. They can't be trusted.
No one is to blame for this but CPS and KSP and they can thank themselves for it. They lied to my kids, ripped them away from a good home and placed them in bad homes. My own family turned on me so they don't even trust them. Thats what happens when you lie to kids.
Anger, Night Terrors, Every Day Life
Normal left our family a long time ago. Our life before CPS was an everyday same routine. Now it all depends on each person's moods in this house. There is 3 of us with depression and PTSD so moods go from happy to crying to just mad and yelling.
The night terrors are the worst most of the time. Mindy, Clint and I have them terrible. We jump out of the bed screaming and yelling. We hit walls. We don't know we are doing it and don't remember doing it the next day. The thing with these PTSD night terrors is you don't touch the person when they are doing it. You are reliving what happened to you. They are terrible.
Its hard to deal with your own PTSD and depression when your trying to help your kids deal with it. How do you help them when you don't have the answers for them?
The anger I have and my kids have toward CPS and KSP will never go away. I can't explain to them why what happened happened or how to make it better. They are angry for being jerked away from us. They are angry for never being allowed to say what we were accused of is a lie. They are angry for being mistreated in foster homes. There is so much anger from all of us.
Jeff had only been away from me one time in his life in 9 years before foster care. He was a mama's boy. He hugged me and told me he loved me 10 times a day. When he came home he had been mistreated in foster care and drugged. I remember telling him he couldn't do something one day and him getting in my face and saying what you gonna do about it bitch?. I just turned around and walked off and didn't say a word. NEVER in his life would he ever have spoke to me like that before foster care. He has gotten a lot better but he still has his days. Some days he will just get so mad he will cry and say he just doesn't understand why they did what they did to us. He goes from calm to plain downright pissed off and can't think in 2 seconds. He will be 12 this year and he still sneaks in our bed every night. He doesn't want to go anywhere away from us. He is fine with his friends coming over here but he won't stay with friends. He doesn't want anyone to know they were in foster care. He doesn't want anyone to know anything that happened. Before foster care him and Mindy was VERY close. Now they are not. While they were in foster care they weren't even allowed to step in each others rooms or hug each other if one was crying. I am slowly getting my baby back but he will never be the same.
Mindy has night terrors every night. Her moods are crazy. One minute she is happy and the next she is crying. Yes she is in counseling and on medicine. Her night terrors are of being taken away from us and the detective grabbing her arm and screaming in her face. Plus she was sexually abused by a former foster dad and has to deal with that. She lives in fear of him coming after her every day. Mindy has a lot of guilt for telling what happened because she feels that is why I can't see my parents and why my siblings turned on me. Her guilt over that will never go away no matter what we say to her.
Clint has missed a lot of school this year. He actually got ulcers from this crap and was in the hospital from that. This caused tension migraines and he was in the hospital from that. Then he got so depressed he went to bed and wouldn't get up. He cried for a day and a half straight. He lost 20 pounds in one month. I tried and tried to pull him out of it and couldn't He finally said he needed to go to the mental part of Kosiars and get help. He was there for a week and I missed him like crazy. His behaviour when he first came home was a lot like Jeffs. He has turned around 75%. He is very very close to my parents and brothers and can't see my parents due to the no contact order with my brother because he still lives at home. He is very angry and depressed over that. He wants my mom to come here and stay a few days and she can't because of my brothers and he resents that also.
Each day is a little better for the most part. What keeps us going is each other supporting each other and the kids knowing I am still fighting trying to find someone to sue CPS and KSP. And now trying to help other foster kids and making a positive out of this negative. No matter what the five of us will always stick together.
PTSD, Anxiety and more
I have been diagnosed with severe PTSD from this traumatic event. The Doctor said it was as bad as someone that had seen terrible things in war. I have awful night terrors. I beat my husband. I stand on the bed and beat the walls and scream and yell. I jump off the bed. So far I have dislocated my elbow, shoulder and broke my foot in three paces not counting the endless bruises. I have severe anxiety. I don't want the kids out of my sight even for school. I have told them they can trust no one because of how people lied. I have days when I just cry and the kids don't like that much. They are not used to seeing me cry so they don't know what to think. They always said I was overprotective before this happened and now they say I'm very over protective.
Clint was also diagnosed with PTSD. He suffers severe anxiety. He got so depressed he was in Kosairs for over a week. He lost over 20 pounds and went to bed and slept and cried. He never cries but one night he started crying and cried for a day and a half non stop. He said he hadn't cried since it all happened and now it just all came out. He also was very sick and in Kosairs for a week and had several tests done. Come to find out he had ulcers from all of this. He was very close to my parents and brothers and isn't allowed contact with my brother and can't see my parents because my brother still lives at home. His sleeping is as wild as mine. He jumps out of the bed screaming and yelling. He used to want to be a State Trooper and follow in my dads footsteps but no longer wants any part of that. Clint is MMD to start with and has suffered anxiety since CPS went to school and stripped him naked when he was about 5/6 and even went so far as to touch his penis. As usual we couldn't get anyone to help us even then. Every since that happened his anxiety has been terrible.
Clint was also diagnosed with PTSD. He suffers severe anxiety. He got so depressed he was in Kosairs for over a week. He lost over 20 pounds and went to bed and slept and cried. He never cries but one night he started crying and cried for a day and a half non stop. He said he hadn't cried since it all happened and now it just all came out. He also was very sick and in Kosairs for a week and had several tests done. Come to find out he had ulcers from all of this. He was very close to my parents and brothers and isn't allowed contact with my brother and can't see my parents because my brother still lives at home. His sleeping is as wild as mine. He jumps out of the bed screaming and yelling. He used to want to be a State Trooper and follow in my dads footsteps but no longer wants any part of that. Clint is MMD to start with and has suffered anxiety since CPS went to school and stripped him naked when he was about 5/6 and even went so far as to touch his penis. As usual we couldn't get anyone to help us even then. Every since that happened his anxiety has been terrible.
Workers making news for domestic violence
What totally amazes me to this very day is some of the people they let take other peoples kids.
Kate Jeffcoat made the news a few weeks after she took my kids away for domestic violence with her husband. And her kids were there when it happened! But did anyone take her kids or investigate her? NOPE they sure didn't!! Why is that I wonder? Because she is a CPS worker and her husband is a cop? Its wrong. Very wrong!
Now I'm not going to get into this a whole lot but I am going to say I feel very very sorry for her husband. He was a Police Officer and got into trouble. And from what I understand from several sources very close to them he was NOT at fault. But if she did to him what I was told she did then he should have "slung" her around. Sorry but thats my personal opinion. All she managed to do was ruin this mans name. And the news media and KSP helped her to do it. I met this man and he was a very nice man who didn't deserve this.
Personally I couldn't care less. My point of this whole post is to prove a point. Some of these CPS workers are getting drunk and having domestic violence in their house in front of their kids and getting away with it. Someone should go in and not ask them the truth and then make up lies about them and jerk their kids away from them and see how they like it. They are not any better than anyone else!
THE VIEWS HERE ARE MY OPINIONS OTHER THAN THE LINK AT THE TOP OF THE PAGE. I HAVE A RIGHT TO VOICE MY OPINIONS.
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
Who to believe
I grew up being taught family is everything but in the last two years I have often wondered how true that is. My parents were in foster care as well as my grandparents and I wanted to follow in their footsteps and be a foster parent one day to.
I had 11 brothers and sisters. Some from first marriages and some adopted but I am the only blood child with my mom and dad. Now I say blood child because I have never in my life ever thought of my siblings as not being my siblings. We may have fussed with each other but God help anyone that messed with one of us because we would all come after you and at the same time. Isn't that how family is supposed to be?
I guess as you get older and get married and have families of your own things change. Personally in our case I think some of the spouses my siblings chose is why things changed. Its never good when you have a brother in law who lives for drama. Who calls CPS on you because he wants your son or lies to landlords to get you kicked out so he can have the house you're living in. I could go on and on but wont. Now personally to this day if my husband messed with any of my siblings even though they disowned me after this happened I would personally put him in his place. Family is family and stick together no matter what right? No I don't guess they do.
I haven't spoke to my 8 of my siblings in two years. When this all happened I was to blame for everything. My brother in law said I should be put in jail for trying to talk to my parents. One of my siblings who I won't name made a terrible fake facebook page about me for the world to see. Several siblings and nieces all posted on there. I have this printed off and copies of it all. My grandfather died and my husband found out about it on facebook and told me. My mothers sister forbid me and my kids to come near the funeral home. I had to tell my kids who were living hell to start with that their great grandfather died and we were forbid to go the the funeral home by my Aunt. I will never as long as I live forgive her.
I had a no contact order with me and my dad and me and my brother. My kids were also not allowed contact with either of them. I always knew I could talk to my dad about anything and now when i needed him the most I couldn't talk to him at all. My little brother is mentally handicapped and was being treated worse than we were by CPS and KSP.
Kate Jeffcoat told us that my dad would sit in her office for hours and hours and tell her how she should take my kids away. And I was a drunk and druggie. Mitch Harris said he told her this was all lies and and this was all my daughter being sexually active. He also said my dad said I was crazy and would call him and my mom all the time. I was also told dad said my kids were having sex with each other. Who do you believe? I know dad was trying to get the focus off my brother but who throws their own daughter and grand kids under the bus? Why in the world was he even doing all this talking to the police and social workers? He was a State Trooper for 24 years and should have known better.
There is DVDs of my brother talking to Mitch Harris and Kate Jeffcoat and he was saying crazy stuff also. Like this was all lies because I was mad at them and made this stuff up. And I was crazy and so much more.
So who do you believe Some of these things are on DVDs that Mitch recorded and some are not. My dad has a very bad heart and come to find out he had two heart attacks while being interviewed with Mitch that day. From previous experience with his heart attacks he was saying things and didn't even know what he was talking about. Was I mad? Yes I was. I still get angry for some of the things that was said. I get angry because he should have known better being a State Trooper for 24 years then to talk to them to start with.
I get angry at some of the things my husband said. Like he would leave me for custody of the kids. Or talking about this with his ex wife and older kids. Or letting them come to court when they were partly to blame for what was going on. I felt like after all the years we had been together and everything we had been threw we needed to stand together. Mitch Harris actually told my husband if he would divorce me and take the kids away from me and my family that he would help him get custody of the kids back. I was very upset that he would consider taking my kids from me and let some asshole threaten him.
This is how I saw it. CPS and KSP wanted us all to turn on each other and that's exactly what everyone but me did. I said time and time again that we needed to unite and stand together and show them they were wrong and not let them tear us apart but no one felt the same way.
If I didn't make an effort with my parents to this very day I would probably never talk to them. I call them or try to arrange to go see them. They don't call me and when I have seen them wont go in public with me because they don't want to be seen with me. Im sorry but I didn't do anything wrong and that hurts me more then anyone will ever know. I love my parents so much and would do anything for them but sometimes wonder if they would do the same.
I had 11 brothers and sisters. Some from first marriages and some adopted but I am the only blood child with my mom and dad. Now I say blood child because I have never in my life ever thought of my siblings as not being my siblings. We may have fussed with each other but God help anyone that messed with one of us because we would all come after you and at the same time. Isn't that how family is supposed to be?
I guess as you get older and get married and have families of your own things change. Personally in our case I think some of the spouses my siblings chose is why things changed. Its never good when you have a brother in law who lives for drama. Who calls CPS on you because he wants your son or lies to landlords to get you kicked out so he can have the house you're living in. I could go on and on but wont. Now personally to this day if my husband messed with any of my siblings even though they disowned me after this happened I would personally put him in his place. Family is family and stick together no matter what right? No I don't guess they do.
I haven't spoke to my 8 of my siblings in two years. When this all happened I was to blame for everything. My brother in law said I should be put in jail for trying to talk to my parents. One of my siblings who I won't name made a terrible fake facebook page about me for the world to see. Several siblings and nieces all posted on there. I have this printed off and copies of it all. My grandfather died and my husband found out about it on facebook and told me. My mothers sister forbid me and my kids to come near the funeral home. I had to tell my kids who were living hell to start with that their great grandfather died and we were forbid to go the the funeral home by my Aunt. I will never as long as I live forgive her.
I had a no contact order with me and my dad and me and my brother. My kids were also not allowed contact with either of them. I always knew I could talk to my dad about anything and now when i needed him the most I couldn't talk to him at all. My little brother is mentally handicapped and was being treated worse than we were by CPS and KSP.
Kate Jeffcoat told us that my dad would sit in her office for hours and hours and tell her how she should take my kids away. And I was a drunk and druggie. Mitch Harris said he told her this was all lies and and this was all my daughter being sexually active. He also said my dad said I was crazy and would call him and my mom all the time. I was also told dad said my kids were having sex with each other. Who do you believe? I know dad was trying to get the focus off my brother but who throws their own daughter and grand kids under the bus? Why in the world was he even doing all this talking to the police and social workers? He was a State Trooper for 24 years and should have known better.
There is DVDs of my brother talking to Mitch Harris and Kate Jeffcoat and he was saying crazy stuff also. Like this was all lies because I was mad at them and made this stuff up. And I was crazy and so much more.
So who do you believe Some of these things are on DVDs that Mitch recorded and some are not. My dad has a very bad heart and come to find out he had two heart attacks while being interviewed with Mitch that day. From previous experience with his heart attacks he was saying things and didn't even know what he was talking about. Was I mad? Yes I was. I still get angry for some of the things that was said. I get angry because he should have known better being a State Trooper for 24 years then to talk to them to start with.
I get angry at some of the things my husband said. Like he would leave me for custody of the kids. Or talking about this with his ex wife and older kids. Or letting them come to court when they were partly to blame for what was going on. I felt like after all the years we had been together and everything we had been threw we needed to stand together. Mitch Harris actually told my husband if he would divorce me and take the kids away from me and my family that he would help him get custody of the kids back. I was very upset that he would consider taking my kids from me and let some asshole threaten him.
This is how I saw it. CPS and KSP wanted us all to turn on each other and that's exactly what everyone but me did. I said time and time again that we needed to unite and stand together and show them they were wrong and not let them tear us apart but no one felt the same way.
If I didn't make an effort with my parents to this very day I would probably never talk to them. I call them or try to arrange to go see them. They don't call me and when I have seen them wont go in public with me because they don't want to be seen with me. Im sorry but I didn't do anything wrong and that hurts me more then anyone will ever know. I love my parents so much and would do anything for them but sometimes wonder if they would do the same.
Saturday, April 27, 2013
Blame Game
Talk about feeling alone I sure did. When my husband got home he was still mad. He was mad at me and my family. He was mad because he had lost his kids and my family he felt was the only one that caused it. I on the other hand felt as though his kids and ex wife played a role in what happened. At this point we wasn't seeing eye to eye on much of anything.
He informed me that he would do what he had to do to get his kids back and if that meant me leaving then I would leave. I would do anything for my kids to come home but what had brought that on? Come to find out Mitch Harris had told my husband that if he ever wanted to see his kids again then he would divorce me and move them as far from me and my family as he could because my family was all crazy. What?? Who is Mitch Harris to say such a thing? Mitch also told my husband that he would make sure I would never see my kids again. Well let me tell you something, that man had another thing coming if he thought that was gonna happen!
The bickering went on and off thru the night. My husband said it was all my families fault and I said no his kids and ex wife was involved and was to blame also. To this day we still don't agree on this subject and try to avoid it as much as possible.
I sit back now and think and I still have so much resentment from all of this. I resent my family, my husband, KSP, CPS and so many more people. They didn't want us to stand strong together and go against them. They wanted to break each of us down and turn us against each other and thats exactly what they did.
He informed me that he would do what he had to do to get his kids back and if that meant me leaving then I would leave. I would do anything for my kids to come home but what had brought that on? Come to find out Mitch Harris had told my husband that if he ever wanted to see his kids again then he would divorce me and move them as far from me and my family as he could because my family was all crazy. What?? Who is Mitch Harris to say such a thing? Mitch also told my husband that he would make sure I would never see my kids again. Well let me tell you something, that man had another thing coming if he thought that was gonna happen!
The bickering went on and off thru the night. My husband said it was all my families fault and I said no his kids and ex wife was involved and was to blame also. To this day we still don't agree on this subject and try to avoid it as much as possible.
I sit back now and think and I still have so much resentment from all of this. I resent my family, my husband, KSP, CPS and so many more people. They didn't want us to stand strong together and go against them. They wanted to break each of us down and turn us against each other and thats exactly what they did.
Going Home
We got out of jail late Sunday night. I remember sitting outside waiting and thinking what do I do from here? What do I do if they don't let my husband out? Where do I start? How do I find my kids? How do I get them back?
I wasn't sure how to go home without my kids being there. I know I was SO thankful that my dogs were there for me to go home to. My in laws had taken me home and my husband was with Caleb picking his car up.
My best friend had been going to the house and taking care of our dogs. They were so glad to see me! But I was so lost without my kids being there. No one knows what it is like to one minute your life be good with your kids and the next minute all three kids are gone.
I remember sobbing like there was no tomorrow that night. I felt so alone. I had no idea where my kids were or if they was ok or not. I walked thru the house and was just lost.
I had been told at 18 yrs old I would never have kids and God Blessed me with three great kids. From day one of being pregnant my life revolved around my kids. They were my pride and joy, my life, my everything. How would I go on without them?
I wasn't sure how to go home without my kids being there. I know I was SO thankful that my dogs were there for me to go home to. My in laws had taken me home and my husband was with Caleb picking his car up.
My best friend had been going to the house and taking care of our dogs. They were so glad to see me! But I was so lost without my kids being there. No one knows what it is like to one minute your life be good with your kids and the next minute all three kids are gone.
I remember sobbing like there was no tomorrow that night. I felt so alone. I had no idea where my kids were or if they was ok or not. I walked thru the house and was just lost.
I had been told at 18 yrs old I would never have kids and God Blessed me with three great kids. From day one of being pregnant my life revolved around my kids. They were my pride and joy, my life, my everything. How would I go on without them?
Friday, April 26, 2013
Normal? I don't think so....
We tried to keep things as normal as we could for our kids even with the hell we were going thru. It was almost time for school to start so we bought school supplies. Our oldest was in football so he was going to practice. It was a hot summer so we was doing a lot of swimming in our pool.
About the only thing that wasn't normal was the total chaos we were living with my husbands kids and ex wife. It was constant trouble with those three. Caleb(changed) was 24 and Cathy(changed) was 18. Hi ex wife Anita was just a downright idiot. Caleb was living with us and wouldn't help around the house, always had friends over, was rude to the kids and very disrespectful so I told him he had to move. Needless to say this didn't go well at all. Words were said and here we went. He was making threats to our 16 yr old and me and fighting with his dad and on and on and on. So he called his mom and it went from bad to worse. Next thing I know she is at our house and yelling and cussing at my kids. I called the police and this went on forever and they finally told her if she didn't get in the car and leave she was going to jail. It didn't stop there. The police were at our house 5 times in 4 days over her coming over, making threats, yelling and cursing me and my kids, etc. I had lived with this from her and my step kids for 12 years and was done. I applied for an EPO on my step kids and my husband applied for one on his ex wife Anita.
We went to court in front of Judge Miles and he didn't do anything despite the threats to kill me that Anita had made. He said we all needed to stop. Well all I wanted was peace and all she wanted was to make our lives hell. All orders were dropped. At this point I flat refused to let my step kids come to our house, around me or my kids and even changed our phone number. I was fed up. But not as fed up as I was going to get.
A few days later Kate Jeffcoat came to us and told us she had a report that I had hit Mindy across the back and slapped her face. Kate had spoke to Mindy and Mindy told her it wasn't true as well as the boys did. So my husband called Caleb and Cathy and asked if they had went to CPS and why they had done that. Caleb said yes they had and that Cathy and Anita had done most of the talking. When he was asked why he said that their mother Anita had told them if they didn't go lie to CPS that she would throw them out in the street. At that point I was done and still am to this day. (This all happened three days before the sexual abuse came out)
The next day my husband I got up and went to see Kate at CPS. Kate assured us that she didn't believe the accusations and felt that they were made as revenge for the EPOs being taken out against them. She said we would be getting a letter saying they accusations were unfounded and the case was closed. We never did get that letter and in fact they used it against us in court.
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About the only thing that wasn't normal was the total chaos we were living with my husbands kids and ex wife. It was constant trouble with those three. Caleb(changed) was 24 and Cathy(changed) was 18. Hi ex wife Anita was just a downright idiot. Caleb was living with us and wouldn't help around the house, always had friends over, was rude to the kids and very disrespectful so I told him he had to move. Needless to say this didn't go well at all. Words were said and here we went. He was making threats to our 16 yr old and me and fighting with his dad and on and on and on. So he called his mom and it went from bad to worse. Next thing I know she is at our house and yelling and cussing at my kids. I called the police and this went on forever and they finally told her if she didn't get in the car and leave she was going to jail. It didn't stop there. The police were at our house 5 times in 4 days over her coming over, making threats, yelling and cursing me and my kids, etc. I had lived with this from her and my step kids for 12 years and was done. I applied for an EPO on my step kids and my husband applied for one on his ex wife Anita.
We went to court in front of Judge Miles and he didn't do anything despite the threats to kill me that Anita had made. He said we all needed to stop. Well all I wanted was peace and all she wanted was to make our lives hell. All orders were dropped. At this point I flat refused to let my step kids come to our house, around me or my kids and even changed our phone number. I was fed up. But not as fed up as I was going to get.
A few days later Kate Jeffcoat came to us and told us she had a report that I had hit Mindy across the back and slapped her face. Kate had spoke to Mindy and Mindy told her it wasn't true as well as the boys did. So my husband called Caleb and Cathy and asked if they had went to CPS and why they had done that. Caleb said yes they had and that Cathy and Anita had done most of the talking. When he was asked why he said that their mother Anita had told them if they didn't go lie to CPS that she would throw them out in the street. At that point I was done and still am to this day. (This all happened three days before the sexual abuse came out)
The next day my husband I got up and went to see Kate at CPS. Kate assured us that she didn't believe the accusations and felt that they were made as revenge for the EPOs being taken out against them. She said we would be getting a letter saying they accusations were unfounded and the case was closed. We never did get that letter and in fact they used it against us in court.
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The start of lies
Our life went on as usual. Football practices swimming, summertime and two of the kids went to Troopers Island. Everyday life was normal for us and pretty good.
We had made sure Mindy went on with counseling. Whenever the CPS worker Kate Jeffcoat would call us we would do whatever she asked. We had nothing to hide. Kate called to tell us that a Kentucky State Police Detective that lived about four houses down from us would be calling us to talk with us about what had happened.
I should have known then that my life had just went to hell in a handbasket. Let me back up just a little. My dad was a Kentucky State Trooper for 24 years. The Kentucky State Detective that was doing the investigation was Mitch Harris and he didn't like my dad and my dad didn't like him. My dad had been very loyal to the Kentucky State Police and felt like they were his extended family. Mitch literally said my dad was a "nobody" and needed to learn this. Mitch had made it well known he didn't like dad and didn't like my family. He even went as far as to bring another one of my brothers to my house and tell me that he shouldn't be walking down the side of the road. Mitch was drinking when he came to my door because I could smell it on him and his wife drove him to my house. My brother was very upset because Miitch had pushed him around in front of some other Trooper friends and proceeded to tell him that our dad was a nobody. We called the Kentucky State Police and the Trooper that came to our house said we had to ignore Mitch as he "was a drunk". I knew at that point it was gonna get bad.
Mitch told all of us to come to the Police Post so he could talk to us. So my husband, the kids and I all went. He made it all out to be calm and told us he wanted Mindy to go to the childrens center in Louisville to be questioned and examined We said ok as we wanted to help as much as possible.
Kate had us come in and sign a paper saying that we would keep the kids safe and away from my brother Joe. We agreed to this and was fine with it. While we was with Kate the kids said they were scared that she was going to take them away and she told them and my husband and I many times that we had done nothing wrong and that she would never take them away from us. What a blatant lie!
Mitch and Kate set up a time for us to take Mindy and the boys to the Center for children so they could be interviewed. We spoke with the Doctors and they all talked with the kids. The exam they did on Mindy they said was all normal. When we requested the records from there we was told no. We did get some of the records in the police report from our legal aid attorneys.
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We had made sure Mindy went on with counseling. Whenever the CPS worker Kate Jeffcoat would call us we would do whatever she asked. We had nothing to hide. Kate called to tell us that a Kentucky State Police Detective that lived about four houses down from us would be calling us to talk with us about what had happened.
I should have known then that my life had just went to hell in a handbasket. Let me back up just a little. My dad was a Kentucky State Trooper for 24 years. The Kentucky State Detective that was doing the investigation was Mitch Harris and he didn't like my dad and my dad didn't like him. My dad had been very loyal to the Kentucky State Police and felt like they were his extended family. Mitch literally said my dad was a "nobody" and needed to learn this. Mitch had made it well known he didn't like dad and didn't like my family. He even went as far as to bring another one of my brothers to my house and tell me that he shouldn't be walking down the side of the road. Mitch was drinking when he came to my door because I could smell it on him and his wife drove him to my house. My brother was very upset because Miitch had pushed him around in front of some other Trooper friends and proceeded to tell him that our dad was a nobody. We called the Kentucky State Police and the Trooper that came to our house said we had to ignore Mitch as he "was a drunk". I knew at that point it was gonna get bad.
Mitch told all of us to come to the Police Post so he could talk to us. So my husband, the kids and I all went. He made it all out to be calm and told us he wanted Mindy to go to the childrens center in Louisville to be questioned and examined We said ok as we wanted to help as much as possible.
Kate had us come in and sign a paper saying that we would keep the kids safe and away from my brother Joe. We agreed to this and was fine with it. While we was with Kate the kids said they were scared that she was going to take them away and she told them and my husband and I many times that we had done nothing wrong and that she would never take them away from us. What a blatant lie!
Mitch and Kate set up a time for us to take Mindy and the boys to the Center for children so they could be interviewed. We spoke with the Doctors and they all talked with the kids. The exam they did on Mindy they said was all normal. When we requested the records from there we was told no. We did get some of the records in the police report from our legal aid attorneys.
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The Reveal
After much time and thought I have decided to start a blog. Will it help with the healing process? I don't know. Will it make everything in my life better? No I'm sure it won't. But if nothing else comes from this I will NOT stop until I expose Kentucky, CPS, The Kentucky State Police, Shelby County High School and everyone else involved in ruining our life. And you better believe I'm gonna name names and tell all! Also please feel free to comment on each blog or ask questions
August 4, 2011 was one of the worst days of my life. I re live this day every day and night. I don't think it will ever go away or get any better.That day was the start of my battle with CPS that would only get worse before it got better.
A month or so before we had taken my daughter who was 12 to the Doctor to be put on birth control because she was having troubles with her periods. The Doctor asked if she had ever had sex and she she said no except for what happened with Uncle Bill(changed for privacy). We was shocked. First we had heard of it.
The next day CPS worker Kate Jeffcoat was on our doorstep. Mindy (changed for privacy) wasnt home so we told the worker that we would bring her into the office as soon as she got home. That was our first mistake.
We took Mindy into the CPS office when she got home. Mindy was very upset and didn't want to talk to the workers. So I said if she didn't want to talk to them she didn't have to and Kate Jeffcoat rudely said if she didn't talk she would get a warrant and make her talk. Mindy being scared said she would talk.Us being stupid and not knowing the law said if she wanted to talk that was fine.
While Mindy was talking to one worker we were talking to Kate Jeffcoat and our boys Jeff(changed) who was 9 and Clint(changed) who was 14 was in another room playing.
The worker who had been talking to Mindy came in the room with us and told us that Mindy had been sexually molested by my 16 yr old mentally handicapped adopted brother Joe (changed for privacy). Our worlds fell apart. When had this happened, where had this happened, why had this happened and more questions came to mind.I felt sick. I felt guilt that this had happened to my child. I was mad at my brother. One by one details came out. That it had happened more then once, it had happened at my parents house and Mindy was afraid to tell us for fear she would be taken away.
August 4, 2011 was one of the worst days of my life. I re live this day every day and night. I don't think it will ever go away or get any better.That day was the start of my battle with CPS that would only get worse before it got better.
A month or so before we had taken my daughter who was 12 to the Doctor to be put on birth control because she was having troubles with her periods. The Doctor asked if she had ever had sex and she she said no except for what happened with Uncle Bill(changed for privacy). We was shocked. First we had heard of it.
The next day CPS worker Kate Jeffcoat was on our doorstep. Mindy (changed for privacy) wasnt home so we told the worker that we would bring her into the office as soon as she got home. That was our first mistake.
We took Mindy into the CPS office when she got home. Mindy was very upset and didn't want to talk to the workers. So I said if she didn't want to talk to them she didn't have to and Kate Jeffcoat rudely said if she didn't talk she would get a warrant and make her talk. Mindy being scared said she would talk.Us being stupid and not knowing the law said if she wanted to talk that was fine.
While Mindy was talking to one worker we were talking to Kate Jeffcoat and our boys Jeff(changed) who was 9 and Clint(changed) who was 14 was in another room playing.
The worker who had been talking to Mindy came in the room with us and told us that Mindy had been sexually molested by my 16 yr old mentally handicapped adopted brother Joe (changed for privacy). Our worlds fell apart. When had this happened, where had this happened, why had this happened and more questions came to mind.I felt sick. I felt guilt that this had happened to my child. I was mad at my brother. One by one details came out. That it had happened more then once, it had happened at my parents house and Mindy was afraid to tell us for fear she would be taken away.
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